You are so right jinny...it is damned hard to take what we know in our minds is good advice and apply it to our thinking and our lives. I kind of liken it to this....I know in my head what the answers are, but my heart hasn't caught up to it yet. There is no meeting of the mind and heart so in that way, it's hard to accept and move on.

What it comes down to is retraining your brain in how it thinks. Not an easy task to do, but definitely doable. There is nothing in this life that is impossible. Things may "feel" impossible and you may get stuck for awhile, but there are always ways of accomplishing things. It's a matter of continuing to try....opening one's mind and eyes to other possibilities. And yes, it can be very hard to do especially when stuck in a bad place.

There is a little trick I learned a couple of years ago from a dear friend who is a recovering alcoholic. He dealt with many demons and learned how to heal....and passed this on to me when I was at an all time low. I know this will sound silly and foolish and it will feel silly and foolish as well when doing it. But, I kid you not, it absolutely helps in bringing about some self love and respect!

Every single day....every time you go past a mirror, you must look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you love you. No matter how low you are feeling, you must do this. Sometimes I was so low I would scream at my reflection...I would scream "I love you and you are worth it". Of course I didn't believe that for one minute. I hated myself and my life. I was angry and miserable. But I was also determined to find my way out of it...so I did this little thing. Everytime I went to the bathroom I looked in the mirror and told myself I loved me. I kid you not, within 2 weeks, I started to feel better. I was able to look at myself with different eyes. I didn't scream it anymore....I was able to speak the words calmly. I actually began to feel important to me. I turned my thinking around and realized that I really did love me enough to give myself some care....some understanding....some patience....some compassion. I was amazed at how well this little trick worked.

That trick did wonders for me. Not only did I learn to care for myself, I learned that I didn't have to live by what I assumed were other's feelings and thoughts about me. I learned that I was a good person and I didn't have to live my life by my perception of their perceptions LOL.

Maybe, this trick might help you in retraining your brain to put yourself in a better light.


sabby