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Part of me is so angry at him because I am suffering so many losses...

So he drops more on me... it is the timing that bothers me not so much the details.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">So you wish he had not disclosed his marriage to you? Especially not at that time? What has been the pattern of self-disclosure from him that has been typical for you in the past? Is he in the habit of self-disclosing? My T self discloses a lot to me, by mutual agreement, and it has been beneficial to me. However, that doesn't work for everyone. And as you said, in this instance the timing was not good at all! I would feel oddly brushed aside if I was talking to my T about something really traumatic or intense and suddenly he switched the conversation to something not relevant, such as that he was getting married, that his father was sick, etc. Lauren, if knowing details of your T's life is not therapeutic for you, could you tell him?

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He has easily let me see him twice a week now for a month. Sunny you know this therapist used to fight me on that. So, now I think I know why...

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">So you think maybe he is giving you the 2 sessions a week just to placate you? That he really believes 2 sessions is not best, but why hold fast to what he thinks is best because he'll be terminating with you soon anyway due to his move? An alternative is that he thinks you can benefit from 2 sessions per week. Can you clarify this with him? It could lead to a rift between you if you are thinking ill of his intent when his intent wasn't that at all.