littlehands, my daughter and I are beginning to go to a family counselor together. She has her own therapist, but they are not working on family concerns (or if they are, there has been no change in outcomes). I am hopeful that working together with a professional will help. That way she and I can both hear each other's concerns, with a trained professional there to help. Have you thought of going for counseling with your daughter to a family therapist?