Can you take her with you to see the family therapist again? Maybe your therapist can help mediate and create the space you need to talk and listen to each other. It may take a few sessions before you are both able to communicate with each other.

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Is she reacting the right way or the wrong way???

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">It sounds like there has been some progress--she has changed her mind and tried to apologize to you. This sounds good to me. Maybe look inside yourself and see what you want from her now. The damage is done--she followed you and spied on you and was not supportive when she said she would be. But now she is sorry. What do you want? Maybe you just need more time to allow yourself to accept her apology.