I really liked Sabby's idea. Some kind of CODE WORDS. Something with good, safe meanings attached.

I tried not to over-react last night to this suggestion of your spouse.

BUT, it really upset me because it reminds me of the programming stuff the cult did to me to make me do what they wanted. EVEN if his motives were better than theirs were - this is STILL WRONG!!!!!!!!!

Code Words YES, Electric Shock NO< NO< NO< NO< NO< NO

Leslie