I hadn't even THOUGHT about that!
I guess I just thought that if he said it's OK then it is OK. It hadn't occurred to me that there might be anything else to it...Now I feel bad...I try so hard to be good to him, and here I might go making things worse.

As far as I know, there wasn't any sexual abuse in his early years, but he has told me that his XW used to rape him more than occasionally. Something that began consensually that got out of control. I didn't even make the connection - I'm not her, he said he wanted me to, so it must be different...wow.

I'm GLAD you guys are so protective!!! I still have so much to learn...
So I guess we're just down to what he can do to me? Ipe!