Some peeps can be self destructive in their relationships .....

Not realizing that the trust factor is usually compromised many times over ,, while communication is sporadic . And the quasi agreements are sometimes built out of defensive or offensive postureing .

[ insert quote here ].......if you let the bird fly and it returns ...[ inserts my own ending ].......it be up to you whether you want to re - feather that nest with the used feathers of the past ,,,,for the storm battered , tattered little bird >>>>... may now want the brilliant plumage that has come back to full brightness ,, from the time that was taken to repair ourselves .

Reflecting or worrying about " what next " is better to say so what !!! Any betrayal in a relationship of any kind ,,, infedelity ,,, substance abuse ,,, even a major lack of self care on the other ones part ,,, can rip the foundation away from even the most through thick and thin >>> relationships .

If " Damage controll " is a constant as to one spouse >>>.. then that one should first controll their own personal damage and re - define YOUR OWN HAPPINESS .

For if that little bird does return ???? ... Some one is going to have to be exceptionally strong and patient .
And at that point ,,, Don' t ask the question ,,, if you believe the answer may hurt you .

Good Luck in your decision / choice . WMD .