Ugh,

My mom is constantly worried about my brothers who both have mood disorders. One has bipolar (type?) and the other is in between bipolar, depression, anxiety who knows it is all so new to him and the family.
My mom struggles all the time with blaming herself for their disorders/mental health. No one else in my immediate family has such problems. I had a great uncle commit suicide and aunts with anxeity. But my mom is the type that wants answers to everything. I can tell she is so concerned what has happened in their lives is all her fault biologically or socially. I try to tell her that it's just chance that they both are like this but she wants the science.
I have suggested a support group for caregivers or family members so she can learn more and see that she is not alone in her worries. She tried counseling but was upset because the doc wanted to talk about her feelings and she just wanted answers regarding her sons. She has read like every book and that really seemed to help her understand.
Has anyone gone through this with their family? Or experienced this same guilt my mom has? I too feel guilty, but only because I do not have the same problems as my brothers (this might not make sense) Why them and not me.?? I guess I should take my own advice I gave to my mom, "Its all chance, who gets what genes from who"