In truth, many families don't even want their soldiers to come home, or if they get home, they'd just as soon they leave as soon as possible.

Many guys I knew got dear john letters from wives and sweethearts (while they were in hospital recovering from combat wounds) - can you imagine?

Others made it home without some of their body parts, and of course, the families didn't know how to deal with this.

Just as important, the warrior doesn't know what's going on or how to deal with it. It's as frightening to the warrior as it is to the family. Is anybody listening here!?

And all of them brought home the memories. Many of them could box up the memories and act more or less normal, but there was no understanding of what they needed to survive. They didn't understand it and neither did their families. "That's just good ol' Joe. He never acted the same after the war."

And none of them could re-attach those relationships the way they used to be.

Can you imagine? *tears