I have been engaged for about three years now. we met in high-school and have done everything from college to work together. Some time between now and the beginning, and had began to become someone who i never wanted to be. I began to not listen to her, to be really selfish about things, and I had begun to take her for granted.

I didn't see any of it, though, until she said she wanted to break up with me.

There were sexual issues within the relationship that had caused the most distrust and pain

She suggested we take a break, and I should have seen it then, but I didn't.All I could think about on the break was how long the break would last. We got back together, but she was still troubled. One of her friends saw that she was troubled and took the opportunity to jump in and talk with her about things.

The problem with that is that this friend was also wanting to get with her,and thus you could imagine the things he told her to 'help'. About two weeks later, she decided to break up with me. I was an emotional wreck after that,and did some things that drive her even farther away.

After all of this, I finally realized how badly I messed up, and how to fix it, but after talking with her, she said it was too late. She's still talking to me, and says that she'll always love me, and that a part of her wants to forgive me. She says she still wants to be friends, but that doesn't make sense for the reason she gave for breaking up with me.

I know you don't know us personally, but at one point we were deeply, madly in love with each other. I'm still in love with her, but I don't know how she feels.

Right now she is in another state to go and visit this "friend" of hers. she did call me in the airport, though, before her plane reached the gate. she mentioned wanted to come and see they new house i recently moved into when she gets back. they are now dating, and she is staying at his house for another week or so. once she gets back here, he will be off in basic training for 8 weeks, and will be cut off from communication with him for that time period.

I've told her how sorry I am, and that I love her.

I cannot just simply find someone else... she is the love of my life, and I screwed up. There just isn't any other person in the world that i want to be with.

We've been broken up for a month now. I talked with her recently, but it was very awkward. she is still with her "friend" in another state, and i found out that she started drinking - something that she would have never done when we were together. I'm 19, she's 20, and her friend is 18. he's staying with his parents, but i'm still worried because it was his mom that made the drinks for her.

when we were together, we were so close, we shared everything and did everything together. we both told each that we knew we were going to be together forever. we were also each other's first time having sex, and as far as i know, still each other's only. i hope this is still the case.

I am still able to talk to her, but i need help in mending things with her. i know my mistakes, and i know for a fact that none of it would ever happen again. i would do anything to prevent this pain from coming back for both me and her.

I seriously doubt that her relationship with this guy will last. It sounds too much like rebound. From what i know about her for being with her for the past 3 years, he just simply isn't her type. she didn't want me going military because she didn't want that lifestyle for herself, and yet he's heavily air force. he's also a womanizer.

How do i mend things with her, regain her trust, and hopefully get back together with her?... What can I do to fix this?

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping. I'm not a bad person, but have made so many mistakes.