well here goes, this is a topic that i have never discussed, not even in all the therapy i've had over the years. well the other day i was talking to my eldest aunt. and we were talking about the possibility of my mother giving custody of my brother to his father. my aunt tells me she cannot believe my mother would do this since mothers in our family would never give their children away. and my first comment to her was "hello, don't you remember that you raised 3 of your own grandchildren because your daughter gave them to you and my own mother gave me to my grandmother and aunt when she remarried when i was 9 years old? WOW! i had never discussed the fact that my mother let me live with my grandmother and aunt after she remarried. true that i wanted to return home to them since my mother and i had lived with them for my entire life prior to her remarrying. but she easily let me return instead of standing her ground and saying "hey your my kid and you have to adjust to our new life". i have never really given thought to how that may have affected my life and my relationships. i have attachment issues. as i have mentioned in previous posts, people describe me as being a very "cold" person. i define what they refer to "cold" as being very protective of my feelings. just wondering what anyone's thoughts are on this.