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Then I got a picture of a child letting go of the furniture for the first time and realising they can walk unaided, and its like that with this issue, I can continue to be fine or I can sit and feel rejected and abandoned and make everying about about this email? I guess when T said once that I need to experience her in certain ways so I can resolve the memory, perhaps I'm torturing myself with the getting no reply because I'm trying to fix the old memorys of the times I was once abadoned/rejected.

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That is so powerful. I read it -- went away, and I had to come back and post.
Something about the image of a young child letting go of the furniture...Wow!!

Just a thought -- feel free to ignore it --

What if you found that picture of a child in your mind, and then imagined *you* were the child's mother. How would you respond to the child releasing her hold from the furniture and taking those first steps?

Imagine giving the little girl love and support, and being the mother that that child really needs.
Then, Thank the child for taking the risk of letting go.
Thank yourself for properly caring for the child and her emotional needs.

I believe that we 'torture' ourselves when there is something important to be resolved. Perhaps this feeling is an opportunity to release some old pain.

Many

Wishing you that inner peace, and a connection with that little girl. I'm hoping she can let go again, and try taking another step.