purplebutterfly...you are giving to people when you share yourself...whether it is by sharing your difficulties or sharing your hope. We need to do both...that is how it all works...we can't all be supportive all the time--there would be no need for places like psychcentral if we could all be "strong" all the time. Really, I think it takes just as much strength to share some of your pain and to accept support from others as it does to be supportive. We need you--we need to have the chance to support you...just as sometimes we need support from you we need the opportunity to be supportive--both make us stronger. Both are important and vital. So...really, you are not being selfish--you are helping us anytime you allow us to support you. Heck, just giving me the opportunity to write this post has enriched my night. I have thought about how important it is to help others...how much I get in return for offering a little support--I think, anytime I offer support, I am given it back 10 fold. I also realize how fortunate I am to have people in my life you are there for me...I always get what I need, just when I need it...I hope you feel like you are getting what you need...whatever that may be...even if it is just a little time to yourself, time where you don't post, but instead save a little energy for you. You are what is important...you need to take care of yourself. We all need to take care of our self first...somehow, it all works out that we end up taking care of those around us when we take care of ourselves first....thanks for being here for me tonight...you are just what I needed at the moment....see, you are supporting me and you did not even know it...