LuLu, it makes no difference to me if you are a therapist or a lumber jack for that matter. You might have opened a can of worms with your post and everybodies feeling about therapists, but the most important thing on my mind is how are you dealing with all this? (Well, I am also concerned about how everybody is dealing with this.) Not only were you violated by somebody who should have been able to trust to watch out for your best interest, you have met a bit of...well resistance here. I am not judging anybody in a negative way concerning their reaction about this. We all have our own issues about therapists. I think everybody here needs support concerning this matter. Not just, LuLu...all of us could use a little compassion and understanding about our feelings concerning therapists. Issues of trust are not easy especially when we are all so vulnerable. Well, when we choose to make ourselves vulnerable to another human who is suppose to respect and honor our trust. Being vulnerable is not a weakness--it can be a strength---making yourself vulnerable can be difficult, but it can also be very rewarding...if the person you trust is ethical. Having our trust broken can be devastating and make it really difficult to trust others. So, it is always good to approach it with caution concerning how we word things...how others might feel about it Flat out, I would smack my therapist (pdoc) if he ever kissed me Of course, that does not stop my feelings of transference that make me want to have him kiss me more than anything else in the world. Sometimes, I hang on every word he says like it is the last word I will ever hear. But, I know it is safe for me to allow myself those feelings because I know he is ethical and he will never breach my trust.I know those feelings are about me and my issues, not really love for him. Lulu, I am sorry you do not have that relationship with your therapist. And, everybody here who struggles to trust their therapist I hope you can someday get to the point you are able to trust as much as I trust my pdoc. And, I hope everybody is met with the same professionalism, compassion and respect that I have been lucky enough to receive. I don't think therapists are supper human, but they are given a special gift of trust and accepting this gift requires that they hold themselves to higher standards than well, my auto mechanic. Lulu, your therapist should not be a therapist. He is a danger to you and maybe to other patients. It is people like him that make some us question the motives of every therapist and every single thing they do or say. It is people like him that cause all this pain and turmoil. LuLu, I feel for you--you are in a tight spot. It must be difficult to be a therapist and to be a patient and to be a member here on PC...it seems like that would cause some inner conflict. I hope you are able to deal with this in such a way you grow from the experience. I hope all of us can somehow grow from this....