I hate to say it but I don't know what you mean. This is far from a flame here and I hope you find no offense in it. I completely agree agree with your unwillingness to be a door mat. However, it doesn't take kicking the crap out of someone, or getting the crap kicked out of you, to stand up for yourself. All the advise given in this thread are excellent examples of taking a stand in a positive manner. I hope that you'll refrain from fighting. There's nothing glorious about it. Take it from someone who's lost control in the heat of the moment and taken things too far. There are better ways. Good luck with whatever approach you use.

Ry