parsifal, I'm glad that you are beginning to understand where your gf is coming from. And I can tell you from experience what the consequesces are of not allowing the person that much needed space. The events of my life have left me with a constant need for reassurace and terror of being hurt. Looking back, this was a major contributing factor in the downfall of my last relationship. When she needed time alone or time to spend with her friends, my insecurities ran wild with visions of her cheating or not coming back, and she soon began to feel smothered. Time alone is a wonderful thing. It can be scarry if you're not used to it, but I'd look at it as time to better connect with yourself. Take this alone time and indulge yourself in something you love to do. I hope things work out for you. Take care.

ryan