I got up during the night and found this email from my therapist and the other therapist who was in the group last night:

"I sensed that you were very hurt by what J said. What she said came out of her own low self-esteem. I thought about having her apologize right during group, then decided that it would be better if the two of you were to talk in private with a therapist (or both therapists) present. M and I had a chance to talk after group, and we wondered if you’re okay. That’s why I’m glad that you emailed me. As for your not saying anything, you must have been shocked (as were M and I). Yes, an apology from J is very appropriate. Remember, J is also in therapy, and tact is not her strong suit. As we write this to you (M has been giving me her input also), part of us wants to call you (even though it’s late in the evening). We want you to know that we were very concerned about what J had said and are hurting for you. Right now we’re here at the office discussing whether J is appropriate for continuing in group. We’d both like to ask you to please not leave group. You’re a wonderful addition to the group and we don’t want to lose you. I’m sorry we don’t have the specifics yet about how J will apologize to you, but we want you to know we hear the pain you’re going through about what J said. We’re both sending you a hug in this email. Please don’t make any decisions yet. Let us help and support you through this."

I sent an email back saying that I would appreciate their help and support to get through this difficult situation.

I haven't been having a great day because of the comment last night. I know I have to use some skill or another to get myself back on track. Right now though I just want to feel bad. It hurt my feelings to be spoken to like that.

I appreciate all of the responses. It's nice to know that some people are so thoughtful and can relate to my pain. ((((((((((hugs))))))))))) to all of you.