Hi earthmama,

T and I do not touch at all. I think once before I mentioned this--if he held my hand I would have freaked out and I suppose he knows this about me. As we get closer in the relationship I feel as though I might now be able to tolerate touch, but don't crave it. I don't think I could handle a hug at all and for me it would feel like a boundary crossing. It's interesting how others have been able to incorporate touch into their therapy. SIgh.

We have an intense and loving relationship but I've only shook his hand twice when my H came with me and there was hand shaking all around.

In fact, when I leave he often has his hands in his pockets. I think it's a way for him to not touch inadvertently. LOL