((earthmama))

I'm so thrilled that you had that deep connection with your T, and that you were able to get the hug that you needed!

I think touch can be very healing, when done in an appropriate manner.

For the longest time with T there was no touch whatsoever. One week I left the my session a complete mess. The next week, talking about it, I was able to eek out that I had wanted a hug, but I didn't think it was 'appropriate', so I didn't ask.

The next time I needed a hug, I asked. It helped me to know it was ok. It helped me to see that a person can touch another person in a purely supportive manner without wanting something in return. It helped me to ask for what I needed.

I've also squeezed the heck out of T's hands while just crying.
Sometimes T will touch my shoulder as I'm leaving.

This may sound strange -- but sometimes the shoulder touch, just that one moment of connection, is what sticks with me after I leave the session. All the words I said, the tears I cried are somehow not so important.

I understand the boundaries, and that it is vitally important for there to be no romantic touch. I do not mean to be too controversial, but I want to speak out in case there are others who are afraid to ask for what they need.

to all, and thanks to Earthmama for being brave and starting this topic!