Dear Pegasus,

Thank you for being so gentle!

Please understand that in no way was I being judgemental of anyone in here. I was trying to pass along some lessons learned by experience.

In my case unemployed/ husband abusive/ Mom dying of cancer 1500 miles away and unable to go see her - and there I was glued to my pc. At the time on Compuserve you were charged so much an hour and my bills were running $300-500 a month. I beccome a volunteer in a Human sexuality forum as a moderator/ leader and thus got my time for free. It was a good idea/bad idea.

So there I was online 24/7 or just about. Only taking time off to feed dogs and cats and duck my husband's blows. While I helped others I was unable to help myself. For me hiding in cyber made me put off dealing with the real world. Online I was "safe and had a life". In real life things were as bad as it gets. (picture drug dealers pulling up to your house at 2am to buy dope...)

I'm happy this place is here and there are good people to share our darkest hours. Hopefully we are can find healing and find peace and comfort.

Judy