I wonder if there are other ways you could keep all that stuff safe without the clutter? Howz about a small portable safe? A lockable drawer? A padlocked cupboard? Just wondering if there are alternatives... so that declutterring might actually be doable, but still be able to serve your system's needs.

Hey, I think it's really cool you could reconnect with your t. It sounds like you are really aware of all the issues it raises within and without, and thats a good thing. Would occasional contact be so bad?

We will be reconnecting with our old T later this year. We saw her for 8 years, but haven't seen her for a long time now. It is hard to imagine what it will be like to see her again. I know she will cry a little - she was very attached to us. I don't know if we will or not, but I know we will be very very very very very happy to see her. And probably a little overwhelmed.

Anyway, it seems like you'll come to the right decision for you about this. I can tell she has payed a hugely important role in your life, and sometimes it's nice to touch base with those who have meant so much to us.