Yes, seeing her again was a whole bunch of things all mixed up. Different parts in the system reacted very differently, and yet, we could hold that in the balance and still function - which i think is a big thing. I am not so sure I want her as much in my life as I used to think. I am doing a lot better now that ever before. But time will tell...

I am glad you will also get to reconnect. It can be very good, like you say.

As for the cleaning - I am not sure yet. There are few boundaries between my mom and I (and I'm an adult, so this is a big thing) and working /setting boundaries ends in a lot of fights. I am working on getting out but until then, the clutter ensures that she stays away from me. I may have to dissapoint T afterall.