Ingomar, this sounds like the decision you need to make for yourself. Good luck finding a new T.

Recently, I went to a family counselor who my individual therapist had recommended. The family counselor was very respectful when he asked me who had referred me. He said, "may I ask who you got my name from? you don't have to tell me if you don't want to." This guy is very respectful and even that little interaction helped build trust between us.

Ingomar, will you tell this T why you are dropping her?