So there is this guy whom I used to work with. And for a couple years he had feelings for me but I was with someone. Now, Im single and we talked for a few months and then went on a couple dates. I like him, he's a great guy. Well he lives 6 hours away (we both go to different schools) and I only really see him when I go home for holidays etc... and even then its not certain we'll see each other.

Well I told him that since I just got out of a long relationship that was very serious Im not ready for a serious relationship, especially one thats long distance. He says he's okay with it and insists that he doesn't want anyone ele etc... So he's kind of waiting on me I guess.

Well I told him that I want to date around etc... So I meet this guy in one of my classes and we hung out a couple times and he asked me on a date. So we went and I had an awesome time. Weve gone out a couple other times and hang out quite a bit now. We haven't had the "boyfriend girlfriend" talk yet so as of now we're just dating.

So I'm not sure how to go about telling the first guy about this. I know if I do he'll be crushed. But I don't want him to be sitting around thinking Im basically holding out for him. But at the same time I don't want to bring it up and hurt him about something that might never go further than just dating.

I don't know whether I should tell him or not. I know I should I just don't know how to go about it. Im going home this coming weekend and I think he might go home because he knows Ill be in town. And I don't want him to come in town thinking that we will be going on dates etc... while Im seeing this guy.

Ugh.... so basically I don't know if I should tell him.