chaotic, I think you make a lot of valid points. I've found myself struggling this long holiday weekend with wanting to be grateful that I received a response at all (my low self esteem showing) to being angry that it still is unresolved (and the next group is in 3 days) to being hurt that it was allowed to happen at all. I don't know if I would feel safe in group anymore. If someone else or the same person were to make another comment to me or someone else, what would happen? Would it be breezed over again? It's really messing with my head right now. I feel like I have to fix this for J as well as for me because no one else seems to be responding to the situation. I've gone for 4 days now without an apology and without knowing what is going to happen this next group.

I realize that I'm angry that my therapist was so shocked by the behavior that she didn't know what to do immediately. I know she's only human, but if you're going to lead a group I think you should be ready to deal with the issues that come up in a group setting.

This hits too close to home for me because my family used to call me names related to my weight and it really hurt. There was no one there then either to stand up for me when I couldn't stand up for myself. Like then, I've been depressed since this incident happened. I've been physically sick with stomach problems and headaches. The stress of this is making me ill. And my therapist has made no attempt to contact me to see how I'm doing. I feel abandoned. I know she only has access to email from her office and she is out of town, but she always has her cell phone. Why hasn't she called me? Why should it be me calling her. I didn't make the rude comment and I didn't mess up as group leader addressing the issue.

I'm ranting now. I don't want to keep doing that but I'm upset. I want to email or call my therapist but I really feel like she should be checking in with me.

Anyway, chaotic, I appreciate your response and again, I think you make a lot of good points.

for everyone who has responded to this post.