Miss Charlotte,

I'm really sorry - it's hard to watch someone you love not admit to a drinking problem. I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to not let him use your car until he gets some kind of help. After all it's your car and how would you feel if he killed himself or someone else while driving it.

The thing is, a lot of times alcoholics won't get sober until they really want to, at least that's how it was in my case so you have to remember to look after yourself too in all of this. Have you ever considered going to an Alanon meeting. I've heard really good things about alanon as a support network for friends and family of alcoholics.

He may be angry now, but maybe getting charged with a DWI will be enough to shake him up into getting some kind of help.

--splitimage