Sometimes the other person's anger makes us think we have something to feel guilty about. Probably that is a purpose the anger serves, although I know full well the anger is real. It's hard to keep it separate though. The anger is about him and his denial of what it being put plainly in view by way of the DWI and your asking him to get help. I also bet he is angry with himself but would never in a million years admit that.
His anger is to make you feel guilty so you'll change your mind. Stick to your guns, MissC!

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