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I am still trying to formulate a reply to this (such a long word for a blonde bear

..). I can relate to a lot of your pain, and I wish I had some answers for you

Will a hug do for now?
pm me any time if you would like to chat

I am more chatty in pm's than on the board: I think a couple of people here would agree. I am going to read your thread again, and see if I can come up with a bit more in the way of a reply. I think you are terrific and I'm keeping you in my thoughts ...
Hugs,
Fuzzy