I'm sorry that you have felt unsupported by others. It's part of the stigma of mental illness that people have dealt with for decades. We are still dealing with it. Please know that whether you have a mental illness or not, you are still you. And getting help for it is a good thing. It's a sign of strength to recognize that you need help with something and are willing to go out and get it.

I do some assessment of ADHD in adults on a college campus. For those who do have it, it's very nice to see the relief they feel when they are told that they do indeed have the disorder...that there is an explanation for why they always have struggled compared to other folkds.

There are some very good books available out there. You may have already run across these in your research. If not, I highly recommend them. They are "Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood Through Adulthood"

or "YOU MEAN I'M NOT LAZY, STUPID OR CRAZY?!: A Self-help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder"

or "ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life"

I hope it goes well when you see the psychologist.

gg