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i already know fr a fact that my step-mom does not like gay ppl. i know my dad would be okay with it bc hes behind me 100% but i dont want it to change his view of me. its just hard. i want everyone to know im gay, just scared of what my parents would do.[/quote]

Well, as someone who's experienced this kind of thing, I thought I'd give my perspective. Actually, I knew I was gay but was waiting until I was on my own (as in graduated from college, with a career, completely independent) so then maybe I would tell my family. My uncle "suspected" that I was gay and told my parents. When confronted, I couldn't lie, and told my dad the truth. He said the most vulgar, hurtful, horrible and offensive things that a child could hear from its parent. This was right when dad and I started to have a good relationship, too. That was just over 2 years ago.

Since then, things have become better, but it's still awkward around dad and something we do NOT discuss. Mom is okay with it.

My point is-- don't rush into thinking you need to tell everyone. You may not be 100% sure, even though you think you are. I'm still not sure. I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now and I'm still not sure. You don't have to put a label on yourself. As you said, you choose the person you are with because you love them-- that's all that matters. It's very hard, sometimes you want to burst and just tell everyone "I'm different than you think I am..." but try to resist the urge for now. Especially while you're in high school, it can be extremely traumatic. In college (or whatever your plans are after h/s...) you have a lot more freedom and opportunity to find the support you need.

Before I write another novel on this site... let me leave you with this thought...

You are ultimately still YOU no matter what. Your sexual orientation does not DEFINE you. It is only a SMALL part of who you are. You are a young man, brother, son, grandson, stepson, friend, whatever else you may be...first. So, don't rush to add another label to the list.

best of luck.