My wife struggles with depression and was diagnosed with it shortly after our marriage. She went to therapy for over a year and even was on medication at one point. Since she was doing well we discussed with her doctor coming off medication so that we could have a baby. Now months after our child was born she is in a downward spiral. She has terrible anxiety about doing anything herself and will rarely leave the house without me. She struggles on a daily basis to take care of the baby because all she feels like doing is sleeping. We recently moved at her urging to be closer to family. I found a wonderful job and we bought a house. I have yet to see the slightest bit of happiness from her regarding any of this. In fact her depression has gotten worse. She all of a sudden can't stand the family we moved to be closer to - she thinks they hate her. She can't stand the town we moved to. She hates it to the point where all she can talk about is selling the house we just bought and leaving. Being a member of management at work I am required to travel out of state to receive training from time to time. The trips are limited to 2 or 3 per year and last no more than 1 week. Trips that are "no big deal" when I first bring them up are major issues when it comes time for me to actually go. Usually I am met with demands that I cancel the trip. Family always offers to stay with her and to assist however those offers are met with an "I'm a big girl I can handle it" type of response. Needless to say our marriage is a wreck. We fight on a daily basis. What starts out as a minor irritation quickly escalates into her shouting accusations at the top of her lungs. Though I try to remain calm I admit that sometimes I just can't take it and I only further matters by arguing back. She has agreed to go to therapy again but the big debate now is whether she should take medication. She wants another baby. I would love our children to be close in age but I'm having trouble convincing her that her health should come first. She doesn't care and argues that she'll get therapy while pregnant and go on meds after the baby is born. It's a neverending struggle. I know with therapy it will get better. That is the light at the end of the tunnel for me. It's just very hard because my wife right now is not the person I married. Not even close. I'm really just needing to vent more than anything. I'm at the end of my rope. My only relief is going to work. I dread going home every single day because I know it's only stress and fighting and biting negativity that await me. I'm extremely unhappy with my life right now. This is not the way I imagined things at all. I'm normally so happy and upbeat. I'm thinking I need therapy of my own just to keep from becoming depressed myself. Thanks for listening.