Thanks so much. I don't mean to make her sound like a mean horrible person. I understand that it's her depression causing the problems and not her personally. I try very hard to help out with the baby and generally take care of her in the evenings and try to do things around the house. I know it sounds horrible but it's almost like being a single parent with 2 children sometimes. And one of them has special needs. I get accused a lot of being lazy and irresponsible because of things I'm not able to do. That gets me down because I'm trying. I have to work to provide for the family but I'm "always leaving" so I'm a bad person. It really is difficult balancing my professional and home life right now. Thankfully I have a very understanding boss and I'm able to work from home on days when she is particularly down.

The main concern with medication is during pregnancy. I know there are things that you can take while pregnant but we kind of don't want to risk it. Purple you might be right though. Maybe this is a delayed post-partum depression. Many of the same issues that prompted therapy in the first place are still present though. This is all very familiar territory. I want more kids but I also want her to be able to enjoy them. And if therapy isn't enough I don't know that we can endure many more months of this until she has another baby and gets on medication.