Went with my husband to my parents' house last night for dinner and to watch a movie. I really hate being in that house with those people. Too much happened there at their hands.

I get uncomfortable with the way my f hugs me sometimes. I never really like for him to touch me, but most of the time I can deal and feel decent about it. Last night wasn't one of those times. I guess my question is this. What are the appropriate zones of touch between f's and daughters when hugging? Should it be any different from hugging a male friend who isn't my husband? Actually, I don't even know about that as I have no male friends whom I hug.

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I guess I feel like the area of the back between the shoulder blades is kind of neutral territory and that I should be okay with kisses on the cheek from him. But last night (and some other times) wasn't that. He held me tight (makes me feel like I can't get away) and put his hands on the small of my back below my waist. He kissed me on the side of my neck. And as he was letting me go he ran his hands around my waist and briefly rested his hand on my abdomen. It felt gross.

I was freaking out on the inside. Started bawling when we drove away. My husband thinks I'm nuts.