bawor,

i can imagine how difficult things are for you and your wife right now. i suffer from depression and my husband has been in your position. i honestly don't think it's a good idea for you guys to plan on having another baby at this time. i agree with you that it is most important for her to get the help that she needs at this time. i think that given her depression having another baby will only add to it and she will have a more difficult time coping with the depression. she should a therapist and if they recommend meds, then she may want to consider that option, it's all up to her. i wish you the best. in addition, if you feel you may benefit from therapy, i say "why not?" whatever helps you get through this hurdle that life has thrown your way.

agony