Hi, girllazy,

Ouch, those hugs don't sound right to me.

I'm a Dad and my daughter is now 24. We've never had problems about touching (my problems were with my own parents - no touching - but with my daughter it's not an issue).

I guess the the key is that she is happy around me and likes to jump on me now and then, and tickle me and stuff. My view would be that a parent is there for a child, as an object of comfort and security - it's not the other way around.

I think that in a good relationship of any kind you will want to hug now and then and that will be a bonding feeling and lovely. In a relationship that's not so good, then touching becomes a problem.

Maybe your Dad wanted to make it look like things are OK between you now, but you've mentioned a history and IMHO histories can't be put right that easily.

I hope I haven't assumed too much in my answer, it's only my own view, and it's a very tricky subject. I'm really sorry that you haven't had an easy birth family, and that is one sadness that I know only too well.

Good thoughts to you, Myzen.