bawor, my heart goes out to both you and your wife. Depression is a very destructive disease destroying the lives of the person with the disease and those around them.

getting into counseling as soon as possible it important for both of you. It may be a case where you both will go to some sessions and she will go to additional sessions.

meds, additional children those are things to consider after you get the present under control.

The two of you have a long way to go but given enough time I'm sure you will both find the happiness you deserve.

Do keep us posted on how things are going.