I recently had occasion to call on an ex of mine. It's been 20 years since we have dated. He's even been married and divorced. I am planning a move to his area within the next year (this is how we ran into one another).

We got to talking and I told him why I stopped seeing him. It was because we were having a conversation about feelings and he made the comment that he didn't like to talk about feelings. One one hand I figured it was good to break up because I don't see how 2 people can work together through a relationship without discussing feelings (even if they don't like it).

On the other hand, we are much older and wiser. I was thinking that maybe we could reconnect and I feel so ackward about it because I haven't dated in years. I did ask him why he divorced and he said he didn't want to talk about it. I thought that was fair since we hadn't really reconnected.

We are emailing and sometimes talking at night. I didn't realize I still had feelings for this man all burried deep down inside me.

I'll be in his area again in a few weeks and we may or may not have the time to meet but I'm feeling pretty unsure about things.

Since I last saw him he's built his own law firm, bought a house, etc. These things don't matter to me. What matters to me is happiness.

Should I pursue this until I'm sure it will or won't work?

Advise anyone?