I wish you heed the advice given by Purple and others here also.

Counseling can help the two of you, and guide you with your wife during this depression.

You will also learn alot of constructive things you can apply to your life in many ways.

Hopefully, both of you will go. In case she is not open at the beginning, it is good that you go ... plus it will show her the way.

I admire you're reaching out here tremendously, and have a very good feeling that you will take good care for your own life and the childs, and your wife (and the difficulties she is having adjusting to to many things) in positive ways.

Look forward to hearing more from you and do hope for the best!

Peace and Comfort,
Nightbird
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