(((((((freewill))))))) the most important thing you can do for your son is take care of yourself... i know how hard that is, because we are so use to taking care of others... and our abusers have taken advantage of that... i know that right now it feels like our abusers have won... i am in that place too... but i don't believe that for you... you are stronger then you realize... you have been there to help pick me up when i was in the most desperate place i have ever been... you have encouraged me and helped me stay safe... if they had won you wouldn't have been able to do those things... please stay safe... i care about you...lyn