(((((Sunrise))))) I think that this is one of those opportunities in life that you have to talk to them and express your beliefs and concerns, in calm place. On the one hand, it's wonderful that your daughters have reached this age and not lost someone they loved.

In my own life, even though I'd lost people close to me I didn't have the empathy that I should have at the time. One example is our former accountant. He really screwed up our taxes some years ago, his mother had a brief illness and died during tax season. While I did have sympathy for him, my primary concern at the time was my taxes. (His mistakes did come back and cost us a great deal of money and hassle with the IRS several years later). At the time I thought "he's a middle aged adult, you work through it." I didn't understand how much losing a parent could rock your world until I lost my own father unexpectedly. When the IRS contacted us about the errors, was a much different person. I could then understand what the poor man had gone through.