hi...

Two of my alters have OCD.... and I have a friend that has OCD...

I guess..let's see... for my friend with OCD....

when over to his house... I don't touch... move... anything.... I understand his need to have things... where he left it... so... that doesn't seem to bother me..... of course in my own home... he controls himself.. and also does not... touch/move my things....though since I do not always have OCD... just when those alters are in control.. it isn't as much of an issue.. though if he inisted that I have everything just so... then.. i would do.. what I do with another friend... meet at a place to have breakfast... we can still have a friendship... though... limited...not in my home...

Shopping... I think... I would not do this activity with her.... my best friend does not have OCD... but she is like that when she shops... and it doesn't mesh well with me... so... by agreement... we don't do that activity.... breakfasts... movies... things like that....are ok...

control - my best friend is very controlling - without OCD... and a few months ago... I spelled out to her... where the limits are....had to... if we were to maintain... our friendship...and I literally... every few weeks via e-mail.. have to remind her... and yes.. this is difficult on me... but I love my friend.. but she cannot be allowed to.. control my life...

and finally.... I think... understanding... that OCD is very frustrating for the person that has it... looking at it differently.... not that it is done to annoy.. another person.... that things are done.. because of the OCD... helps..... at least.. changing my viewpoint.. when looking and accepting myself - my OCD alters... it has helped...

and.. I mean this with great respect to you.... it shows a great deal of care... that you would want to... keep, understand and improve this friendship....