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I think everyone has something to offer here. I understand lurking though. I've done a lot of that in my time here. Just post as you feel safe enough to.

As far as yelling, it's not the best solution for sure. Unfortunately a lot of people do it because they haven't learned either how to regulate their emotions or to deal with things in a different way. If it's affecting your children adversely (and it would most children over a period of time, in my opinion) and it's happening a lot without resolution, then I'd say something needs to be done.