Yep,

You need to find something that YOU are interested in (not your children or your husband), something that is JUST you.....something you love to do. When you find something to take the attention off of the "poor me" then you will start enjoying your life & feel that you have something to live for....something that excites you as much as you felt when your children needed you or when your husband wasn't so "workaholic".

I know I was a workaholic carrer woman for 15 years & when I lost my career, I went into a horrible depression....my marriage was horrible also even though I was sticking in it & tolerating it....I realize now that the only reason I did tolerate it was because I had my career.

I was healthy & the only knee problem I had was the one that was reconstructed because of a racquettball accident when I blew out the ACL.....so I found that riding horses & training in dressage gave me something to totally focus on.......Now I can't afford the dressage, but still love riding the horses that I got while I was doing that.

Not only that, but I have gotten into beading....jewelry, also tapertry & latch hook. There are crafts & things that since you have knee problems, physical activities aren't probably the best.

There is also volunteering positions that are always open....I know here they are looking for people in our Humane Society.....there are older people who need support, there are all kinds of community volunteer positions available that give us a chance to get outside of our little miserable feeling worlds we have ended up in as thing have changed around us.

I am sure you can find something that fits you & gives you satisfaction that goes beyond taking care of your own kids & a husband who is absorbed in his work.

It's not being selfish to take care of yourself & do or yourself......as in the long run, you are the only one that really counts to yourself.

Go for it,
Debbie