This all reminds me of a line I really like from a Feist song (I really love Feist!) called Let it Die. This is a mourning-a-dead-relationship song. She sings:
"Now I know what I don't want,
I learned that from you."

So there is certainly value in defining the negatives too. I think of that line sometimes when I wonder what in hell I got out of my 20 year marriage--I learned what I don't want my next relationship to be like!

Looks like T and I were finally able to set a date, and we will be skipping a week again. But at least it's not 18 days this time. It will only be 11 days.