Ramble away--it helps when not much else seems to. You're from Michigan, right? Noting the "eh?" in one of your post it sounds like you're from the UP? Was just wondering what VA you utilized, as most of them are understaffed and unable to appropriately help. However, it was a smaller one, they sometimes have better facilities and staff, hopefully you can contact someone who can help you through this without having to be hospitalized if that is something that really scares you. Has your son even expressed any remorse over the washing machine yet?