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Originally Posted by internettie
Some of it was feelings from the past coming up but I think the majority of my fear was present day because this lady is so angry and volatile. She has no concept of boundaries or social etiquette. I really was afraid, in that moment, that she was going to do something to lash out. I worked really hard at my mindfulness skill to stay in the present.
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But your past experiences with angry people is what was driving your current fear of her? I don't think that this woman will do anything beyond what she has done already.
Just wanted to share this little story. I did child protection for about 1 1/2 years before I became a stay-at-home mom. When I started in this office there was a client (a mom of one of the foster children) there who everyone else in the office was afraid of because she was angry and volatile. I have never been afraid of angry people because my parents were never angry. They gave this client to me, she came in angry but I wasn't afraid of her because I didn't have the history to be automatically afraid of angry people. As I worked with her she calmed down so much because I think that she was comforted by someone not being afraid of her. I think that some angry people are also very scared. Just because someone is angry doesn't mean that they are going to do physical harm. Some do but I think that they are the small minority. They might do physical harm on their loved ones but most draw the line with strangers.