girllazy,

I do not think you are nuts at all. I am sorry this is something that is still going on. I know I would have been uncomfortable had that been anyone BUT my spouse (not that I have one but making the point!).

You have every right to be upset and to own your own space. Nothing says you have to continue hugging your f any longer. You can learn to offer out your hand firmly so that anything other than a handshake is not an option.

You are the one to set your zones of comfort. A qualified therapist can help you better understand what those mean for you.

Again, sorry this was such an icky situation for you. I've had cases of inappropriate touch where I wasn't able to verbally or physically fend off the creeps and afterwards I felt so small and defeated. It is not our fault! Having survived we often take a while to realize our own power to defend and protect our own bodies. With time and help we come to see that our bodies are worth defending and protecting and worshipping.

No one, nowhere, no how should ever be able to touch you without your permission.

I hope you are able to discuss this with your therapist.