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I have a psychoanalytic T and something that drives me crazy is that he overanalyses everything. For example the other day I made a joke and he not only misinterpreted what I said, but he offered all these insights about it. I was so mad at him for not getting me and also for being so analytical. When I'm having difficulty talking about a subject and I say I don't want to talk about it, then he starts questioning me about why it is hard to talk about. That is the way Ts think, or maybe the way they are trained. By warning him ahead of session that you wanted to feel safe, and by once again bringing it up in session that you wanted to feel safe and connected, you let him know that this was important to you. He is trained to think about why you kept insisting in being safe. Where do these feelings come from? I'm thinking that his assumption was that feeling safe with him, getting hugs from him (touch)...it is all connected to that one episode where boundaries were crossed and trust was lost. As much as I wish we could all just go to therapy to play cards with out Ts, they are there to challenge us and make us face and feel our demons so we can get rid of them and lead healthier lives.
I think I understand how you feel. I've been where you are, it's confusing and makes me question why I'm in therapy and why I let this person have so much power.
Hang in there. I've read many of your posts where you describe the great connection you have with your T. I have faith that it will get worked out.
Let us know how it goes next session.
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