Earthmama, what a tough session. I don't think your overreacting. It sounds like you expressed your needs very clearly to your T, in advance of the session, and then again in the session. And he didn't meet your needs at all (when he fairly easily could have), he ignored your request to just have some support and comfort and feel safe. It's so hard to ask anyone to fill our needs and then when you do, to have those needs ignored, and by your T! I think I would feel betrayed, or at least really hurt. Really a tough, touch session.

It sounds like your T was very worried about how his hugs were sitting with you, and just had to ask, couldn't let it wait another day. I think he was really concerned about this, and couldn't let his own need to be reassured by you that the hugs were OK wait until you were ready to talk. So, yes, I think he did blow it. I think his own worries got in the way a bit of providing you with what you needed. He did realize that he "ruined" it, though, and I think this is good. He's certainly willing to admit he's human. I hope you can let him be too, and work through this next time.

From the actions and words you have reported, I did not get the sense that your T was trying to tell you that. But you were there. I think this is something big that needs to be clarified.

Earthmama, it is just fine to not want to see or talk to your T right now. You need some space to be hurt and angry and to process this. Take your time. Friday will come soon enough.