Fi,
This is some shocking stuff to be dealing with. I think it sounds out there because we don't want to look at the reality that abuse of this nature occurs.
When you say the stuff that comes out when you are asleep.....what do you mean? Is it what you are writing down in journals currently? Or am I totally confused?
Your post makes as much sense as any here.
Is your therapist trained in this kind of survivor work? It usually takes someone with a deep background in this to help those who have been through this type of abuse.
It is hard to know we are not alone in abuse and sad at the same time to realize others have experienced something similar to what we did. Strength in healing in numbers. We may not know your exact pain but we do know you survived.